Positive attitude is a process

In this world everything is got quick. From food, ticket booking,  shopping and even bank transactions are all in the finger tip. This has cultivated an attitude of WANT NOW attitude even among the adults. Like kids who cry in the supermarket the adults are also not trained. Now no one has the patience to stand in queue to get things done. We sit in the comfort of the home and get things done at our convenience.

So when talk of behavior and attitude people expect the same thing. They want the change and results in a day. But its not going to work that way. There are still a whole lot of stuff that have not changed. Especially the sowing and reaping process. No one can get the fruit without sowing. Even after sowing they cannot expect the fruit the next day. It has its own gestation time. There are bamboos which take 4 years to shoot up. Every day the farmer is taking care of the land where he sowed  and waits  with patience and a positive attitude imagining the reaping and the profit he is going to get out of this process.

So having know this never compare the development of positive attitude to a fast food shop. Consider it as the agricultural process with good confirmed results. So at the end of the day the achievement is not  how you have reacted or failed. Always evaluate how much you have changed from the beginning. Always compete with yourself in that way you will be motivated and will know the positive changes that have come in.

Always have positive expectations and enjoy even the slight victories you get in your day. Enjoy every day. One day a time. Sure results are guaranteed. Enjoy the process. 

Overcoming hurt

Human being is made up of emotions. Emotions are feelings that a person experiences. There are good and bad emotions. Emotions are psychological and they differ from person to person.  Every human being goes through hurt. Hurt can be caused by numeric reasons. A person can be hurt by situations, circumstance that happen in his or her life. They can be hurt by past incidents that happened in their life and can become hurt by the way people speak about them, treat them or speak to them or about them. Hurt is caused by factors that are not controlled by the person and its painful leading a person into seclusion and depression.

People normally say

1. Time heals
2. Ignore a incident and it will not affect you
3. It will heal and disappear by itself.
4. Party and move on it will leave you. 

But still in the depth you feel it and it remains as a scar to remind you of the incident. It just pops up live suddenly and make the scar a raw wound. This reiterates that hurt is a feeling and the incident is there to stay and not to removed so easily.

 So is there a way out? Can it be permanently cured? Yes. As the last post said it all takes time and perseverance. So the good news is there is a way. So what are the steps to be taken

1. Just see how serious the person is in saying the comment about you. 
2. If its baseless just don't take it seriously.
3. Just sit and have a time to yourself to see if any where you are to blame
4. If yes then take time to overcome that issue. Plan, decide and keep trying till you overcome. 
5. If no, just leave it. You cannot please all people. And so just don't let that statement pull you down.

In the beginning it might be tough. A task which seems impossible to achieve. But in due course it becomes a trait of your behavior. You learn to just brush it aside and keep moving without being held captive to your emotion for a long time. The time duration reduces and soon it becomes very easy as you have mastered the art of overcoming. By doing this you will stay fully active to the best of your potential and enjoy life. Not only are you going to enjoy you are going to influence all those who come across you and motivate them for a well matured life style with an ability to handle emotions in a wonderful way.

Stay blessed.