Showing posts with label overcome. Show all posts
Showing posts with label overcome. Show all posts

Wednesday, January 27, 2016

Overcoming hurt



All human beings are emotional beings. Humans are not machines. This sets us apart. I recently read where they have invented a robot with emotions. But emotions are a strong feeling deriving from one's circumstances, mood, or relationships with others. These feeling can be good and bad. The feelings have a great impact over how we react, what we do and what decisions we make. Emotional decisions are many times taken without thinking rationally and is taken over a quick span of time. While experiencing emotions people feel they are out of control and react without thinking and spontaneously. But emotions can be tamed and brought under control. 

Hurt cause pain or injury to. Physical hurt is taken care by medicines. But emotional hurt is mostly handled alone, is ignored and kept suppressed. When you don't know how to handle it you end up with
  • |Loneliness
  • Being depressed
  • Hurting self
  • Ignoring self 
  • Getting stressed 
  • Self Pity
  • Reliving the instance
  • Justifying yourself





But nobody can get hurt without control. The truth is you get hurt when you allow it. You get hurt when you value what the other person has said. And  when you relive it in the place of loneliness later you allow yourself to be hurt again. The  more you think and live  in that place with self pity you are allowing yourself to be hurt and you keep the wound raw. 







Happiness is a choice. You can choose to live in hurt and take the comfort of self pity or move on ignoring what others have said or done to you by looking forward to the future with a positive attitude. Life does not end by anyone hurting you. You are more powerful in deciding the way your life should go. You can choose to be happy and over come the negative emotions and all that is pulling you down into discouragement and depression. You can spring back with confidence and change the whole atmosphere around you.







The fact is the only person on this whole earth you are capable of changing is YOU. You can never change other people the way they behave and talk. So learn the truth and never waste your time and energy to change the other person. One person or the other may hurt you in any way. So learn to take care of your emotions and learn how to spring back to positive attitude in no time. The more you become trained in this will help you to over come all the hurt and help you live  your life free from the chains that keep you bound to the past. But the positive  attitude in you will open new doors in all times and help you to move on and lead a life of joy ignoring the hurt people have caused you.


Tuesday, January 5, 2016

Overcoming hurt


Human being is made up of emotions. Emotions are feelings that a person experiences. There are good and bad emotions. Emotions are psychological and they differ from person to person.  Every human being goes through hurt. Hurt can be caused by numeric reasons. A person can be hurt by situations, circumstance that happen in his or her life. They can be hurt by past incidents that happened in their life and can become hurt by the way people speak about them, treat them or speak to them or about them. Hurt is caused by factors that are not controlled by the person and its painful leading a person into seclusion and depression.

People normally say
  1. Time heals
  2. Ignore a incident and it will not affect you
  3. It will heal and disappear by itself.
  4. Party and move on it will leave you. 
But still in the depth you feel it and it remains as a scar to remind you of the incident. It just pops up live suddenly and make the scar a raw wound. This reiterates that hurt is a feeling and the incident is there to stay and not to removed so easily.

 So is there a way out? Can it be permanently cured? Yes. As the last post said it all takes time and perseverance. So the good news is there is a way. So what are the steps to be taken
  1. Just see how serious the person is in saying the comment about you. 
  2. If its baseless just don't take it seriously.
  3. Just sit and have a time to yourself to see if any where you are to blame
  4. If yes then take time to overcome that issue. Plan, decide and keep trying till you overcome. 
  5. If no, just leave it. You cannot please all people. And so just don't let that statement pull you down.
In the beginning it might be tough. A task which seems impossible to achieve. But in due course it becomes a trait of your behavior. You learn to just brush it aside and keep moving without being held captive to your emotion for a long time. The time duration reduces and soon it becomes very easy as you have mastered the art of overcoming. By doing this you will stay fully active to the best of your potential and enjoy life. Not only are you going to enjoy you are going to influence all those who come across you and motivate them for a well matured life style with an ability to handle emotions in a wonderful way.

Stay blessed.